Thursday, May 13, 2010

What should a parent look for to be worried about her toddler's language development?

What things should a parent look out for? When should she call the doctor about it?What should a parent look for to be worried about her toddler's language development?
I attached a link to a website that has all the general language milestones that a child should meet by certain ages. If you are ever concerned about your child, for any reason, do not hesitate to call their doctor. That's what you pay them for. :)What should a parent look for to be worried about her toddler's language development?
well i know everyone is going to tell u this but they all learn at there on speed. and will pick up words here and there. but not to worry until they get old say 3 years. and he still has problems and cant speak 3-4 word sentences then i would ask the doctor. but if you are unsure then next time you have a check up ask you Doctor about it and they can run test,,... but i wouldnt make a vist just for this....


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We were recently asking this same question at the dr. At 12 months, they should have at least 2 - 3 words (usually mama, dada, bye, etc). At 18 months 10 -15 words. Between 18 - 24 months is when more words should really start coming around. Our son is 21 months and has recently just started spitting out tons of words. (Our first son had a vocabulary of 75 words by 18 months!) They are going to learn at their own pace, but there are some standards out there. Our first son is now almost 5 and has a bit of trouble making ';th'; sound, but that's it.





Also, consider this... does your child understand what you tell her? Can she follow simple directions? If so, her language is developing she just hasn't wanted or had the need to verbalize it to you. Continue to reward any improvement in verbalization from her.





The best thing for peace of mind is to just ask the doctor at her next appointment. Good luck!
You don't mention the age of the toddler but by the time a child is a few months old they can repeat sounds as they hear them.....like da da da, etc. So talk to the toddler a lot and look into his face and let him watch your mouth and tongue. You can also read, sing, etc.


If he is 'copy-catting' he is doing ok. After a year or so he should be able to say a few understandable words.


If you have any real concerns, mention them at your child's next regular check-up.
Our pediatrician has closely monitored his language at every visit and tells us what to expect and what to watch for and when/if to be concerned. I am surprised not all seem to do this.





I don't know how old your child is, but at my son's 18 mo appointment she expected him to have at minimum a dozen words and be able to point to and/or say a few body parts.
Depending on their age, keep an eye out for lisping that is when they use words using ';th';, also when there is no response and you find yourself talking louder than usual. Some children who are hard of hearing may tend to look at your mouth more often. Blinking when they speak or taking a while to get words out, stuttering comes in many forms.
Personally I think it all depends on the child and their environment. A lot of children I know who are not around other kids their age tend not to talk as much because mommy and daddy understand their every sound. Also I remember my son didn't really start talking clearly enough for other people than my husband and I to understand him until he was about 2 and a half. Even know at 3 and a half it can be hard to know what he is saying. But if you are concerned I would talk to your local doc or if he/she is in day care speak to their provider and she what they think of his or her speach.
If your child isn't really talking by the age of 2 get help. The sooner you get help for your toddler the easier it will be to treat any possible problem.


My son who is 28 months has speech issues and is seeing a speach patholighis now but things I noticed and was told to look out for was poor eye contact, not being able to put 2 words together limited vocabulary.


I hope this helps and if your toddler does need speech therapy I can say from experience it has helped my son hugely.

Can a school attorney attend an IEP meeting w/out parent notification prior to the meeting?

Can anyone cite the IDEA federal law that would allow the school to have attorney representation without prior notice to the parents or their advocate? We're dealing with a messy situation and our attorney just represented the last school the parents tried to sue.


Thank you in advance for your answers!Can a school attorney attend an IEP meeting w/out parent notification prior to the meeting?
Not sure about that one...but if I were to guess, I would say yes they can. B/c the parents/student have the right to have an advocate or attorney present at ANY IEP without prior notification about advocate or attorney being present.





You should have received a IEP handbook that probably has this information.





I bet IDEA has a website too.Can a school attorney attend an IEP meeting w/out parent notification prior to the meeting?
You have the option to stay at a meeting, or refuse to participate in a meeting, should you walk into the room and find the district has brought their counsel without giving you the opportunity to bring your own attorney. You can reschedule the meeting or ask the district counsel to excuse themselves. Call your department of education in the state you live in, and ask for the regulation number that addresses this issue.


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How does a parent address masturbation issues with a 15-year old daughter?

I was recently in my daughter's room picking up laundry from the bed when I discovered a ';toy'; hidden within the sheets in her unmade bed. My first reaction was embarassment and shame. I was born in a different country and some would say my views on sex are a bit old-fashioned. I personally never had a need for one of these toys but I am aghast that my teenage daughter would even think to have one of these items. I asked her about it and if she's engaged in sexual activity and she said no. She received it as a gag gift from an older female classmate. What am I supposed to make of this? Am I supposed to get upset with her or discipline her for something that some would call normal teenage behavior? I'm afraid that her using something like this may encourage her to have sex. She is a wonderful girl, but in so many ways she is so naive and has that rebellious/superior teeange mentality. We don't get along and I don't know what I'm supposed to say to her or how.How does a parent address masturbation issues with a 15-year old daughter?
Since society doesn't usually openly discuss masterbation, especially among females, she was probably embarressed to admit she was experimenting. This is normal and she shouldn't be punished or disciplined for it. In fact, girls who are made to feel ashamed about their bodies and feeling may have sexual dysfunction later.





If you don't really get along, she probably won't admit if she's had sex or is thinking about it. But masterbation does not necessarily mean she is more likely to engage in sexual activity with a partner.





The key to protecting your daughter is for her to feel comfortable coming to you with questions. Work on your relationship to improve communication. Of course, don't give-up your values/morals, but try to set aside your own ';old-fashioned'; views on sex, so she knows she can talk to you without judgment. Rather than ask her questions like ';have you done this or that'; (feels like an interrogation), tell her that you love her and want to protect her from being hurt by sexual activity at too young an age. Be open and honest and try not to judge her, but help her get through these tough years.





Good luck!How does a parent address masturbation issues with a 15-year old daughter?
You're welcome. Our relationship wasn't perfect in my teens - we squabbled like most mother-daughters. But I really think I have my mom to thank for this answer.

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Let her be. It is normal. This is a way for her to experiment with herself. Her engaging in the behaviour may prevent her from engaging in any other sexual behaviours. I wouldn't suggest punishing her or disciplining her.
Masturbation is natural. My mother caught me masturbating at her age... she made a HUGE deal of it. I can tell you from experience that if you make a big deal out of it, it could make her ashamed of her sexuality for the long haul. I'm 30 now... and I still have problems from my mom making such a big thing about it.





With three girls of my own now, I will likely turn the other cheek if/when I catch my girls.
If you throw the toy away and make a big deal about it with the other girl's parents, you are going to send the message that masturbation and sex are bad. That is not a message you should give to your daughter. You should talk to her about the risks of sex and available protection, but having a sex toy doesn't mean she is having sex. In fact, it probably means she isn't and is using the toy for satisfaction. Even infants touch themselves to feel good. There isn't anything bad or dirty about it and exploring herself now will make sex more enjoyable when she grows older. Don't make a big deal about this toy.
The toy doesn't necessarily mean she is having sex. If anything, it might make her feel that she doesn't need to have sex yet because she can get the satisfaction on her own. I'd let it go if I were you.
Let her enjoy this toy. By using it it keep herself satisfied she will not be as horny for the boys. Don't worry about it.She will learn to use her fingers to reach orgasm also.
Shes exploring! all girls are gonna do that. i dont think you should talk to her about it, but since u already have, just drop the subject. its probably really embarrising for her, and its a unneeded convo. there is nothing wrong with what she's doing. sorry if i sound mean i dont mean to at all.
Okay. I know this is probably an uncomfortable subject for you. So far, you're doing good coming here instead of automatically getting on the defensive with her. If you think you can, talk more with your daughter about it. While she *is* young, it is not abnormal for her to have sexual desires and want to do something about them. It's better that she is taking care of this herself instead of having a sexual relationship at such a young age. So it's really not a bad thing for her to have/use this ';toy,'; it could even make her put off sex longer than she would have without it. She doesn't have to have a boy to release these desires with. Just try and make sure she is cleaning and caring for the toy properly with soap and water and drying it afterwards. Not cleaning it can lead to infection because bacteria can grow on it. If it's easier for you than talking to her face to face, write it out. That way you can get everything down in a clear concise manner and she can take her time reading it. Encourage her to find someone she is comfortable with to talk to about general woman's health and how to take good care of her body. Maybe it won't be you, but at least she will have someone.
Don't even bring it up. That's her privacy and she has a right to it, especially at 15. You can have a regular discussion about sex (ie does she have the right information and ready to make such decisions) but what she is doing in private, with her own body that is causing no harm you have no right bringing up. If you are uncomfortable then maybe it's time to stop ';cleaning up'; her room (when i was a teenager the only time my mother cleaned up my room was to snoop) and let her do it herself. If you are worried that she won't have clean clothes to wear then it would be a great lesson in personal responsibilty and growing up.
I think Beni really hit the nail on the head with this one...
i don't think she is using it, she is prob too scared to if she hasn't had sex, i do think she is telling the truth, keep hold of it, if she wants to be curios then let her do it on her own, you don't really need a pep talk about masturbation, maybe buy her a book and let her read it, jusat warn her about sex, keep open with her and when she hits 17 buy her condoms and say if she needs any t ask you, then you will know she is doing it safelty
First ask her if she knows what the ';toy'; is really used for. Assume she is telling the truth but just in case explain to her that masterbation isnt a bad thing as long as it is done occasionally in private. But she should not have toys as such a young girl. She should wait until she is 18 to buy them if she wants them. Take the toy and THROW IT OUT. Tell her you want the NAME of the older girl and I would call that girls parents and tell them exaxtly what the girl gave your daughter.

What is the best way to concieve as a single parent.?

Has anyone out there decided to be a single parent by choice? What is the best method, artificial insamination? Would like to hear from successful experiences where woman have been able to afford to stay home with their child and afford to bring up their child with basica needs and some luxuries. What about moral issues?What is the best way to concieve as a single parent.?
Everyone has different opinions and they're entitled to them... It seems though that most of the answers given were based upon their own feelings rather than the actual question asked.





If you are emotionally %26amp; financially stable enough to handle the responsibilities of being a full time single mom then I applaud you! Please just make sure that you are wanting to have this child for all of the right reasons.





There are so many IVF clinics across the country if you are looking for artificial insemination. The only other way would be to have a willing sperm donor though that can get sticky in so many ways.





I would contact an IVF clinic to discuss your options with a certified physician who will do thorough analysis of your entire situation. It'll be a little more invasive with the mental aspect in the beginning but that is only to ensure that this child that you will conceive is in the best possible familial situation (Single Parents can be the that too).





I wish you the best of luck :)What is the best way to concieve as a single parent.?
Think long and hard before you make this decision. I am a single parent, not but chose, but it still isn't any easier. How do you expect to be a stay at home mom, where will you income come from, can you afford the child's basic needs by yourself? Do you have any reliable friends or family members willing to help you out? And who will be able to provide a father figure for you child? Think about all of this, because a child get thier first impressions of what and man and a women are from thier parents, do you want your daughter going out sleeping with various men trying to compensate for the lack of a father figure or your son joining a gang to feel like a man? Think about all of this before you bring a child into your life, because when they get here, it's no longer about what you want.
talk to your dr. and do what you feel is right.
I believe a child needs a mother and a father figure to grow up normally. In my view, this is the way mother nature intended it to be.
sorry , dont know but you can always ask your doctor where you can go to get artificial insamination. and i dont know any single parent that is able to stay home unless they live with their parents.
well i have friends that are single parents and its not easy if they didnt have good parents they wouldnt have made it as far as they did, it very hard they case was dead beat dads. i am not say it cant be done but it very hard from what i have seen.the work all the time buy the time they pay baby sitter and bills pay gone. one my friends is lucky her mom dosen work so she has a free baby sitter. my other one dish out about $95 a week in child care. both of them have resived child support in years. my friends lil boy is now 7 and has started asked qustion about his dad.... well she took him to were he worked wait for him to get off and told him this is your dad. well did go so well but least he knows how sorry his father is now.kids are very costly and i think it takes to incomes if you dont want to work all the time and not see your kid. i ve been lucky i been a stay at home mom hubby has a great job. she dont have the finist of things but she has ever thing she needs and some so i think she fine. me and hubby were together 2 years before we had our first. and 5 now we have our sound on the way. you have to be ready and the preson you are with has to be. .
that is oxymoronic. you are an idiot. children require a male and female parental figure.

Why would a parent allow their child to smoke weed?

My best friend recently told his mom that he smokes weed and she is perfectly OK with it. He is in college, has a job, and doing well, but he smokes weed excessively now and I feel he in on the verge of going down hill and I'm the only one that cares. What can I do, and what allows his mom to allow him to do this?Why would a parent allow their child to smoke weed?
I read this magazine that this mom allowed her teenage daughter to smoke, she bought condoms for her, and allowed her to drink. Apparently her perception was that if she didn't expose her daughter to those things, her daughter would secretly do those things herself behind her back. The mom didn't want that and wanted to keep her trust with her daughter so she allowed her daughter and encouraged her to do those things.





Maybe your best friend's mom was happy that he told the truth to her and didn't lie about it?Why would a parent allow their child to smoke weed?
His mom respects him as an adult and she would rather know that he smokes then him go behind her back and kids are smoking weed now a days and if he is smoking a lot to the point where he could get caught then you should tell his mother and then confront him with it


if u cant get him to stop then try to get him to cut down on it.


hang out with him from time to time i.e. take him out to a club or something.
As long as he is doing well in life, why would you be concerned? My mother knows that I smoke weed, but she is cool with it because I can still maintain a 3.72 at a good college. If he smoke excessively I might suggest that he cuts down for the sake of his health however, there doesn't really seem to be a problem here.
She probably did it herself as a young person. If she denies her kid using it, she'd be a hypocrite. I would like to know the reason a woman who tells others that she is intelligent, would allow herself to get pregnant and have a kid in the first place! She deserves whatever she gets.
Would u be getting all upset if your friends mom was drinking instead of smoking. Maybe his mom sees them as the same.
Maybe his mom did and suffered no ill effects that she can tell.

My ex has served me with a petition to modify parent child relationship?

My ex has served me with a petition of modify parent child relationship. I need to answer this very soon. I mainly agree with it due to the fact that my daughter is going to be living with him this year. There are some parts I disagree with and I just don't want to default and would like to answer with minor changes. Is there a sample answer form somewhere? I live in Texas by the way.My ex has served me with a petition to modify parent child relationship?
Call an attorney, anything u do will be law till a judge changes it back. So make sure u r ok with everything before u do anything!!!!!!My ex has served me with a petition to modify parent child relationship?
You will have to file a motion to contest the modification. Go to the court clerk to find out how to do this.











The Modification Process





The process to modify a current court order affecting custody, visitation or support begins with a petition to the court asking for the modification. You will probably need the assistance of a lawyer to file a proper petition because there are several things that must be in the petition and you will need to make sure that the petition is properly served on the other party. Once the petition is filed and served, the court can enter temporary orders if properly requested. If the modification is agreed to by the other party, the process can be completed relatively quick. If the other party wants to contest the modification then the court will have to schedule the case for trial.











Grounds to Modify the Custody/Visitation Order





Any person who is affected by the order can ask the court to modify or enforce the order. Before the court can grant a modification, it must find:





1. that the modification is in the best interest of the child;





2. that the circumstances of the child, a conservator or a party affected by the order have





materially and substantially changed since the order was signed by the court.





3. that a child over 12 years of age has filed with the court a written preference for a different primary managing conservator.





4. that the primary managing conservator has voluntarily given up care and possession of the child to another person for at least 6 months.





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  • Why dont they call a child tri racial if one parent is one race and the other is biracial?

    Well, Im half black and Puerto Rican, Then my boyfriend is White. Im look at it this way, Bi means two and tri means three. So why don't call a child bi racial if one parent is one race and the other is bi racial.Why dont they call a child tri racial if one parent is one race and the other is biracial?
    I think your child would be considered ';multi-racial'; I haven't filled any forms out lately, but I think there was a ';multi racial'; choice when I did the application for my son's birth certificate. But, I was on so many drugs because I had such a bad tear during delivery that I could be mistaken! LoLWhy dont they call a child tri racial if one parent is one race and the other is biracial?
    This is for Dawn G. Native American? That term does NOT include all indigenous people in America. I hate the term indigenous. Who uses the term new world besides historians? I'm Native American, black, and white. Saying Multiracial is okay, but it sounds too much like political correctness.

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    Puerto Rican isn't a race, it is a person from Puerto Rico.





    Perhaps it would be more accurate to use Native American, which includes all indigenous peoples of the New World.





    And personally I think we should ALL answer with ';Human'; when asked of race. Race is not the same thing an ethnicity.
    I don't understand why they have to keep records of ethnic origin. If your baby is born in America then your baby should be considered American and that's it. I am oppossed to using African-American, Biracial or any of that. But then again I'm a hardcore nationalist.
    Well, many of the times people just refer to the percentage of the ethnicity in a person. For example, Sarah Palin's husband is 1/8 or something like that Inuit i believe. My mother is Trinidadian, my father Nigerian, my husband Egyptian so what in the world should i consider my son??? LOOOL
    Well people are so many things - it would be bi-racial, tri-racial, quad-racial, quint-racial, sept-racial. Etc. Why keep counting, it could never stop!! I am Mexican, Caucasion, and Asian. I would not like to be called tri-racial. Multi-racial is the best way to put it.
    I think biracial is becoming a term of the past and people are moving in the direction of multicultural or multiracial. I tell by quad-racial child she is multicultural.
    They refer to that as multi-racial.
    mixed race or multi racial would be correct
    I think I will start saying that now...Thanks