What do you do if your parent's are trying to interfere how you teach your child in your religion?

What do you do if you are one religion and your parents are another ,and they are trying to teach you children there religion? How do I tell my parents to stop ? Should I tell them to stop? Will I make it worse for my children ?What should I do if I tell them to stop and they don't?What do you do if your parent's are trying to interfere how you teach your child in your religion?
My opinion??? They're YOUR KIDS, you teach them your religion. Your parents had their chance to raise you, now you raise your own. Just flat out tell them to stop. Religion is a bunch of nothing. It's just ppl trying to be better than other ppl. Tell your parents to teach your children about God and Jesus (unless you're Jew and I apologize if I offended you) and what they have done for us. Other than that, they need to leave it alone and you teach them whatever practice you do so desire. If they can't stick to that, then you need to tell them something. I can't tell you to tell them they can't see them because that's just wrong, but you'll have to do something. I hope you can find a common ground. Sit ur parents down and have a talk with them...without the kids anywhere around and tell them how you feel. Talk reason with them. They are adults and so are you. If they can't handle it, oh well. Like I said before, you get to raise your children, they already raised theirs. And make sure you tell them that too!What do you do if your parent's are trying to interfere how you teach your child in your religion?
Make it very clear to your parents that if they interfere with the religious upbringing of your children that they will lose their visitation privileges. Be blunt. People get weird about religion and if you don't want your kids being confused with your parents' ideas, lay down the law now.
let the kids learn all they can but you raise him how you want to and let him have his own say when he's older to what religious he wants.
You have parental authority over your child and your parents should not try to exercise that authority over your objection. However, in your case, your parents are only interested to teach religion to your child. I see nothing wrong with that, unless the teachings of your religion are way different from the teachings of your parents' religion.
If they just want your child to understand their religion, that's fine. But if they're making you feel like you should also be raising your child their way, that's unacceptable. There's nothing wrong with children knowing about many religions. But it's your house, and your child, and you get to choose how to raise your own children. If they continue to persist in making you feel like you're doing something wrong, then you let them know it makes you uncomfortable, because you are doing what you feel is best for your child. It this doesn't stop them, try and change the subject. If it continues, let them know either obviously or by not inviting them over as much, that their opinion is not wanted.
You need to make it clear to your parents that you are raising this child, and that while you appreciate their love and involvement, you do not want them to teach your child their religious dogma. If nessasary, you will abstain visitation with them. They might just test you...be ready to make good on that.





I remember when I told my mother-in-law we don't baptize babies, we allow people to make their own steps towards accepting Christ. She nearly fainted and accused me of dangling my baby over the firey pit of hell!
It depends on the religions.


If your religions are sort of alike, you could talk with your parents about focusing on the similarities and steering away from the differences.





If you're looking at one of the more extreme religions, by all means, tell them what you expect. After all, it's your house, and your rules. Don't go to their house.
I think a lot depends on the ages of your kids.. If they are older (ie 7-8), then you can use this as a tool to explain about different beliefs in this world. Grandma and Grandpa believe in loving people, they believe in treating everyone properlly, etc, but they follow a slightly different belief. My oldest is in that age bracket, and she loves hearing about other people's beliefs.





If they are younger, then it might be confusing. Of course it depends on how different the religions are and what the different customs are (ie Jewish grandparents saying bad things about Christmas customs, etc) in how confusing it could be.





Over all, your parents should step back. The problem is that obviously they feel strongly about their beliefs to the point that they are instilling their beliefs in your children. You could be direct and tell them that if they continue to undermine your religious teachings that their contact with their grandkids will be limited. But it would be far better for everyone if they would just listen.. or if they must teach your kids, to approach their beliefs as just that - their beliefs.





Good luck!
I would tell my parents how you really felt about the situation in a nice way though. They might get mad if you tell them the wrong way.
It is fine to be open to learning about/exposing kids to others beliefs, etc....it is more of a concern if they are being told to disregard one religion for another, and that there is only one ';way';. My kids are going to catholic school, and their cousins go to jewish school. There have been some interesting conversations over the years, but ultimately, because we have taught our kids to respect our differences, they are fine about it all.... of course, my kids miss out on Hanneke, but then their cousins (theoretically) miss out on Easter and Christmas....although they still celebrate it more as a family occasion than a religious occasion. It really depends on what kind of exposure your kids are getting...ie...is it just that your parents saying ';we've just come from church because it is such and such a feast day, and we believe in Jesus';? (in which case you can say...';isn't that interesting...not everyone believes in jesus... but they are interesting stories....isn't it nice how we can all choose to believe in different things!';)....Or are they saying ';our way is better and your parents don't know what they are doing';? If it is the 2nd variety, that comes down to undermining your authority as parents, and in that case you should make them aware that you will not tolerate it, and there may be consequences if they persist. Grandparently rights do not include undermining the parents. Good luck!
In order to prevent confusion for the child, I would explain to him/her that their grandparents have different beliefs, and I would be open to our differences. I would only get defensive if they were trying to force something on the child, at which point I would have a talk with them and let them know how I feel. If they don't stop, then I would visit them... but not bring the child along, until the behavior stops. Of course, if you resort to this measure, please be reasonable.
i understand about diff. beliefs and all but if you are trying to teach them yours i would tell my parents that they need to stop and when he/she is older that the child can choose if they wish to proceed in learning another that is diff. from what they were taught. but until then they should but out and respect your beliefs, this is your child after all not theirs.
Try to make it clear to your parents that religion is off limits. Raise your child as you see fit. I will be in the same boat in February. I am very much against my daughters religion. I am not going to interfere, I hope. I've done some reading on her religion and they are not supposed to force their child into their religion.


This is all so touchy. If your parents continue after you ask them not to, you need to tell your children that their grandparents have different beliefs.


Ask your parents not to put you in a position whereby you might have to tell your children they are wrong.