How do you deal with your own insecurity issues as a parent?

Being a parent is hard enough without all the feelings of inadequacy and doubt that we put on ourselves. Add to it the judgments of others and it can be a pretty daunting task. I know I'm not the only one who has had the thought of ';What the heck did I get myself into?!';





So how do you deal with it?





BTW - Saying you don't have those feelings won't earn you a BA from me because we ALL have them. Just admit it and you'll feel better, trust me.How do you deal with your own insecurity issues as a parent?
have more kids. i'm slowly morphing from desperately insecure to just plain arrogant.


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better yet, be a *grandparent*! ever see an insecure grandparent? thought not.How do you deal with your own insecurity issues as a parent?
I'm not a mommy yet but I mated last night so if you give me a few weeks to answer this question i'm sure I can do better then this but here it goes...





if I were a parent I would listen to the opinions of others and take from it what (if anything) is positive and let the rest just blow off. Seriously, no one not even, bunnies are ready to be parents, it's a learning experience that takes time, tears, and lots of sleep.





oh and whiskey, sometimes.


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the only thing that helps me deal with these problems is being proactive. when i'm feeling bad about something that i've done, i make a conscious effort to get better every day. i constantly try to better myself as a person, in turn making me a better parent. it may take me a long time to resolve the issue, but i feel better that i am making progress toward a goal.
what do you mean i am perfect???? just joking..kidding aside..i have those feelings of inadequacy.....hw do i deal with them.....just the though of knowing that no one is a perfect mother...and knowthat i at least try to be the best mother i possibly can to my children...what i am not so great at others are...what i am great at others struggle with...
Yeah, you're right. We all do and if we think we're infallible, chances are we're hugely fallible. I look at my kids and if they seem healthy and happy, I try to dismiss my feelings but if there is an issue that really seems to be stemming from something I';m doing, I talk to my husband about it.
I've been there to the extent that i don't even want to get into and honestly the best thing for me was to just ';know'; i was doing all that i could and that things would eventually be the way that they needed to be.
I don't have those feelings as long as you are not a whinny teen mother with ';perfect grades'; (bull) or a lonely housewife on the computer all day you don't have to deal with these things because you are not lazy or stupid.
I really don't have a lot of time or such an attention span to dwell on insecurity issues for too long. Honestly.. I'm just so ADD with my feelings and thoughts that I can't keep up with it.


That's how. Just keep your brain moving. :) he he
You have to know that you are doing what you think is best and with the best interest of your child. We will all make judgments that we will question and we will stumble. Do not beat yourself up over it. You just have to try again.
Wheres that whiny teen mom at hah? I always get insecure about adopting...like sometimes I just hate on myself and say damn they were probably better off (which they wouldnt be) but when I'm really sick or too tired to stuff its just hard not to feel that way.
Jesus makes everything better





I think more paople wouldn't feel insecure if we didn't have homosexuals running around ready to prey on your children every chance they get
I deal with it by praying. Usually God sends someone my way and they remind me what a great mom I am to my kids.... usually that someone is about between 2-3 feet tall and calls me mommy :)
I try not to take advice from people I don't know unless it's online I can always turn the computer off when people hurt my feelings
I don't deal with it very well I'm afraid. I either walk to try to clear my mind or just curl up somewhere and cry.
I had a lot of insecurities when I was preg with my first daughter. I`m the youngest of three so I never took care of anybody before her, and that made me feel very insecure. But to my surprise, I was amazingly strong and adequate even after having a cesarean.


But then I had a huge insecurity and it was when my daughter turned 1, it was almost impossible to make her eat, so my husband started trying and with him she would eat, with me, nothing. So for dinner my husband was the only one who could feed her. Then one day she threw me a huge tantrum when putting her to sleep at night. I thought she was sick, I thought something was wrong...so my husband tried putting her to sleep and from then on I could never put her back to sleep. For about 4 months this continued and I felt horrible, I felt that as a mother not being able to feed her and put her to sleep was terrible! Everything I had done to that point had gone right, even perfect, and suddenly this happens! I cried about this and felt unfitted as a mother, because in my mind I had tried everything...except one thing...toughness...


So one day I said to my husband, this is it! She`s totally manipulating me! I love her, but I need to be more tough. I changed my feeding and sleeping techniques and in three days I was in charge again.


From that day to this day, now my daughter is 4 and I`m preg with my 2nd, I know how to deal with this insecurities, know they`re normal but I know how to beat them. :)